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You're not your circumstances

4/27/2016

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Last week I extolled our need to choose Christ when life takes unanticipated turns.  No matter how bereft or lost you may feel, Christ can transform your life into something meaningful and joyful.

Part of that transformation involves your sense of identity.  Although many LDS singles know in their mind they’re children of God, many of them have yet to know that truth in their heart.  And getting to that deeper level is essential to weathering the storms of LDS singles life with joy in our journey.

For example, many LDS singles see themselves and others through the lens of circumstance.  Most people, single or married, do this habitually because others’ actions teach them so to act.  Yet the perspectives embodied in many of these actions serve more to hinder our progression towards eternal goals than to help.

Christ offers ennobling perspectives.  To gain those, we need to choose to think in new and different ways.  And that means seeing ourselves and others with greater clarity.

You are not your body

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Everyone knows how your body is shaped or groomed isn’t the real you.  Yet many LDS singles — men and women — use physical appearance to filter who they befriend and date.  These actions clearly communicate you must be attractive to be loved.  And many of us feel very unloved.

Of course, most prefer interactions with physically attractive people.  Improving your physical appearance can increase your chances of having the interactions you want.

But people are also hardwired to respond positively to a great attitude.  I’m always inclined to know more about someone who displays generosity and cheerfulness towards me.

You are not your body.  You are the character you choose to embrace.

You are not your job

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It amazes me how some singles accept not getting to know someone who happens to be unemployed.  That’s like saying it’s OK to divorce a spouse who loses a job.  “What?  You lost your job?  Well, time to find someone else.  See ya!”  That’s absolutely ridiculous.  And yet many of us have no qualms about filtering others with that ridiculous standard.

Those actions clearly communicate you must be occupationally successful to be loved.  And many of us feel very unloved.

Of course, people typically prefer interactions with successful people.  Improving your career can increase your chances of having the interactions you want.

But people are also hardwired to respond positively to a great attitude.  I’m always inclined to know more about optimistic people.

You are not your job (or lack of one).  You are the energy you choose to radiate.

You are not your bank account

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On a related note, many LDS singles use wealth to filter who they befriend and date.  These actions clearly communicate you must be financially secure in order to be loved.  And many of us feel very unloved.

I can understand the allure of security, but it’s all facade.  Marrying the right person can help us become who we need to become.  That’s a life more fully lived than simply not having to worry about how to pay the bills.

Of course, we all want to associate with successful people.  Improving your financial situation can help you to have the interactions with others you want.

But people are also hardwired to respond positively to a great attitude.  I’m always inclined to know more about someone who sees the opportunities rather than the obstacles.

So are others.  My bank account has seen highs and lows, but the best romantic relationships of my life occurred during the lows, not the highs.  That’s because my confidence, the confidence others find attractive, has nothing to do with my bank account.  How I choose to approach life speaks volumes about who I really am.

You are not your bank account.  You are the confidence you choose to exhibit in your life.

Stay firm

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Not everyone will choose this perspective.  That’s OK.  Their use of traditional filters tells you exactly who they are, making it easier for you to filter them from your consideration.

When high ideals inform your daily actions, it’s much easier for others to see and focus on your best you rather than any deficiencies.  In short, it’s easier for you to succeed.

It’s also a more enjoyable way to navigate LDS singles life.  Improving how you think improves your approach to life.  Making conscious choices to communicate and reinforce gospel ideals with your actions provides more joy in everyone’s journey.  You can create a rich life through meaningful contribution.

You are not your circumstances.  If you think you are, reformat and reboot yourself.  You are a child of God with infinite worth and potential.  Start seeing that in yourself, and then others will be able to see that more clearly too.

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