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Our heartfelt all

4/6/2022

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You get out what you put in, so to get all you can from life you must give your heartfelt all to life.
Wasn’t General Conference this past weekend simply wonderful?  The messages, the music — it was all uplifting and inspiring.  I felt the Spirit teaching me again and again what I need right now to improve my journey through life.

I’m sure many of us share that sentiment.  It should be no surprise then that I struggled once more to select just one Conference address for the program today.  With so many to choose from, it’s more difficult to choose.  But for some reason I feel drawn to Elder Dieter F Uchtdorf’s address entitled “Our Heartfelt All.”

Part of it I’m sure is bias.  I’ve always loved Elder Uchtdorf’s addresses.  And who doesn’t love hearing another airplane analogy?  But there’s something more at work here.  Elder Uchtdorf gets to the heart of discipleship, and there’s a lesson in that principle for LDS singles looking to maximum their joy in their journey, especially those who think their opportunities for joy have passed them by.  You get out what you put in, so to get all you can from life you must give your heartfelt all to life.

Put the Lord first

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Understandably, the weight of life presses on us all.  For many LDS singles who’ve lived years without the righteous blessings they desire, that weight can be heavy indeed.  A pessimistic outlook on the future that often attends that weight doesn’t help.

But there is always hope because there is always Christ.  He can help us go forward when we feel there is no way forward because He is the Way.  When we give our heartfelt all to Him, He gives us access to His power.  And with His power, we can do all things.

That includes maximizing our joy in LDS singles life.  We can find balance amongst all the tensions of life when we put the Savior and our discipleship to Him first and give our all to Him and His work.  As Elder Uchtdorf explained,


Put simply, an aircraft flies only when air is moving over its wings. That movement creates differences in air pressure that give the plane lift. And how do you get enough air moving over the wings to create lift? The answer is forward thrust.

The airplane gains no altitude sitting on the runway. Even on a windy day, enough lift isn’t created unless the airplane is moving forward, with enough thrust to counteract the forces holding it back.

Just as forward momentum keeps a bicycle balanced and upright, moving forward helps an aircraft overcome the pull of gravity and drag.

What does this mean for us as disciples of Jesus Christ? It means that if we want to find balance in life, and if we want the Savior to lift us heavenward, then our commitment to Him and His gospel can’t be casual or occasional. Like the widow at Jerusalem, we must offer Him our whole souls. Our offering may be small, but it must come from our heart and soul.

Being a disciple of Jesus Christ is not just one of many things we do. The Savior is the motivating power behind all that we do. He is not a rest stop in our journey. He is not a scenic byway or even a major landmark. He is “the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by [Jesus Christ].” That is the Way and our ultimate destination.

This is how LDS singles can move their lives forward.

Find a new approach

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This doesn’t mean your solution to the challenges of LDS singles life is more church.  The solution is more you.  When you give more of yourself to what you do, you create the space in which you can have more joy in your life.

It’s that giving more of yourself that actually creates that space for more joy.  That’s why time and time again I’ve defined happiness as giving your all to all the right things for you.  That’s why for years I’ve encouraged LDS singles to embrace a personal ministry.  Like the widow’s mite which Elder Uchtdorf referenced to begin his remarks, your contribution to making the world a better place is worthwhile when it represents your all because it’s only in giving your all that you become a better you.

I can understand why so many LDS singles want to give up on their lives.  Dating often results in frustration and other negative emotions.  Then there’s loneliness.  And those singles who are also parents have double duty in raising their children.  I get it.

But I also get that frustration is a sign you’re going about something the wrong way.  So when you feel life isn’t working right, it’s really you that isn’t working right.  You need a new approach!  Elder Uchtdorf explained how putting the Lord first helps us each find the new approach we need.


It requires both sacrifice and consecration.

It requires letting some things
go and letting other things grow.

Sacrifice and consecration are two heavenly laws that we covenant to obey in the holy temple. These two laws are similar but not identical. To sacrifice means to give something up in favor of something more valuable. Anciently, God’s people sacrificed the firstlings of their flocks in honor of the coming Messiah. Throughout history, faithful Saints have sacrificed personal desires, comforts, and even their lives for the Savior.

We all have things, large and small, we need to sacrifice in order to follow Jesus Christ more completely. Our sacrifices show what we truly value. Sacrifices are sacred and honored by the Lord.

Consecration is different from sacrifice in at least one important way. When we consecrate something, we don’t leave it to be consumed upon the altar. Rather, we put it to use in the Lord’s service. We dedicate it to Him and His holy purposes. We receive the talents that the Lord has given us and strive to increase them, manifold, to become even more helpful in building the Lord’s kingdom.

Very few of us will ever be asked to
sacrifice our lives for the Savior. But we are all invited to consecrate our lives to Him.

Just keep moving forward

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When you partner with the Lord by putting Him and His work first and then taking counsel from Him, He Who is the Way will show you the way.  This principle works in every aspect of life, not just discipleship.  When you give more of you to all you do, you can get more out of what you do.

So if you aren’t getting what you want out of dating, give more of you to it.  Start by learning the fundamentals.  If you aren’t getting more of what you want from your occupation, give more of you to it.  And so it goes for every aspect of life.

You can find the balance and lift you need when you give your all and keep moving forward.  So don’t stop.  Don’t stagnate.  Don’t wallow in the mire of despair.  Don’t wrap yourself in pity.  Focus on where you want to go and keep moving forward.  As Elder Uchtdorf taught,


This is what the widow at the temple treasury seemed to understand. She surely knew that her offering would not change the fortunes of Israel, but it could change and bless her—because, though small, it was her all.

So, my dear friends and beloved fellow disciples of Jesus Christ, let us not be “weary in well-doing, for [we] are laying the foundation of a great work.” And out of our small things will proceed “that which is great.”

Give your heartfelt all to all you do.  You’ll create the space for more joy in your life.  You’ll see life turning around for you.  And you’ll find more balance and lift in your life as you come closer to the Lord.  And that will bring you more joy in your journey.
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Choose Christ

4/20/2016

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Last week I discussed the importance for LDS singles to move forward in order to balance their lives without the eternal companion many of them desire to have.  That forward motion can be difficult to maintain or even start if you feel bereft of any hope in a glorious future.

If you feel this way, what you feel is both very real and not indicative of reality.  That’s not the  contradiction  it  might  sound  like.   What you feel
is the very real result of choices you and others have made.  But that doesn’t mean you’ve lost a glorious future.  There is always hope because there is always Christ.

Many LDS singles easily feel their hopes of a temple marriage reside far outside their reach, if they even exist at all.  Yet our reality abounds with opportunities for us to have the blessings we desire.  We simply need eyes to see what’s really there around us.

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf testified of that.  His April 2016 General Conference address entitled “He Will Place You on His Shoulders and Carry You Home” reminds us of the hope all of us can have in a bright and wonderful future.

God can rebuild you

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President Uchtdorf recounted his childhood experience living near Dresden, Germany, during World War II.  Bombing totally devastated that city.  President Uchtdorf particularly noted the destruction of the Lutheran church the Church of Our Lady.  The war reduced this once grand monument to rubble.

Yet 70 years later, the city now stands completely renewed.  This includes the Lutheran church.  Some of the old stones were used in its reconstruction.  President Uchtdorf describes the sight of these stones within the structure as “‘scars’ [which] are not only a reminder of the war history of this building but also a monument to hope — a magnificent symbol of man’s ability to create new life from ashes.”

President Uchtdorf then remarks,

God will reach after you

Our need to choose the Savior doesn’t mean He hasn’t already chosen us.  President Uchtdorf shared the parable of the lost sheep to illustrate the Savior’s desire to seek after each of us individually.

While the parable of the lost sheep is often used as a call to search after the lost and wandering (which use President Uchtdorf commended), President Uchtdorf asks,
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As I pondered the history of Dresden and marveled at the ingenuity and resolve of those who restored what had been so completely destroyed, I felt the sweet influence of the Holy Spirit. Surely, I thought, if man can take the ruins, rubble, and remains of a broken city and rebuild an awe-inspiring structure that rises toward the heavens, how much more capable is our Almighty Father to restore His children who have fallen, struggled, or become lost?

It matters not how completely ruined our lives may seem. It matters not how scarlet our sins, how deep our bitterness, how lonely, abandoned, or broken our hearts may be. Even those who are without hope, who live in despair, who have betrayed trust, surrendered their integrity, or turned away from God can be rebuilt. Save those rare sons of perdition, there is no life so shattered that it cannot be restored.

No matter how derailed you feel your life may be, you can get it back on track.  Through the Atonement, Christ can heal anyone and restore anything.  But He won’t violate individual agency.  We need to choose Him to effect His marvelous Atonement in our lives.

Is it possible that Jesus’s purpose, first and foremost, was to teach about the work of the Good Shepherd?

Is it possible that He was testifying of God’s love for His wayward children?

Is it possible that the Savior’s message was that God is fully aware of those who are lost—and that He will find them, that He will reach out to them, and that He will rescue them?

Of course the Savior will.  That’s the whole purpose behind His Atonement — to rescue us from an impossible situation separated from God.  While not on the same scale, many LDS singles experience their own individual impossible situations.  “With all my deficiencies, how could anyone want to marry me in the temple?”  “How can I ever rebuild my life after losing my marriage to divorce?”  “How can my life have any meaning now that my spouse has died?”

No matter the question, choosing Christ is the answer.  That’s because choosing Christ is always the answer to life’s difficult questions.  Centering our lives around Him provides us with the perspective we need to journey home.

And because He’s already feeling after you, you’re sure to find and feel His love once you choose Christ.  President Uchtdorf proclaimed,

To me, the parable of the lost sheep is one of the most hopeful passages in all of scripture.

Our Savior, the Good Shepherd, knows and loves us. He knows and loves you.

He knows when you are lost, and He knows where you are. He knows your grief. Your silent pleadings. Your fears. Your tears.

It matters not how you became lost—whether because of your own poor choices or because of circumstances beyond your control.

What matters is that you are His child. And He loves you. He loves His children.

Feeling God’s love heals our souls, transforming our view of ourselves and our world.  It’s then easier to believe more in God’s glorious promises to us and, though we may not completely understand how, that the fulfillment of those promises will come.

Reach after it

President Uchtdorf reminds us that “as we increase in faith, we must also increase in faithfulness” because “obedience is the lifeblood of faith. It is by obedience that we gather light into our souls.”

He then offers a unique perspective on obedience.
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But sometimes I think we misunderstand obedience. We may see obedience as an end in itself, rather than a means to an end. Or we may pound the metaphorical hammer of obedience against the iron anvil of the commandments in an effort to shape those we love, through constant heating and repeated battering, into holier, heavenly matter.

No doubt about it, there are times when we need a stern call to repentance. Certainly, there are some who may be reached only in this manner.

But perhaps there is a different metaphor that can explain why we obey the commandments of God. Maybe obedience is not so much the process of bending, twisting, and pounding our souls into something we are not. Instead, it is the process by which we discover what we truly are made of.

We are created by the Almighty God. He is our Heavenly Father. We are literally His spirit children. We are made of supernal material most precious and highly refined, and thus we carry within ourselves the substance of divinity.

Here on earth, however, our thoughts and actions become encumbered with that which is corrupt, unholy, and impure. The dust and filth of the world stain our souls, making it difficult to recognize and remember our birthright and purpose.

But all this cannot change who we truly are. The fundamental divinity of our nature remains. And the moment we choose to incline our hearts to our beloved Savior and set foot upon the path of discipleship, something miraculous happens. The love of God fills our hearts, the light of truth fills our minds, we start to lose the desire to sin, and we do not want to walk any longer in darkness.

We come to see obedience not as a punishment but as a liberating path to our divine destiny. And gradually, the corruption, dust, and limitations of this earth begin to fall away. Eventually, the priceless, eternal spirit of the heavenly being within us is revealed, and a radiance of goodness becomes our nature.

You are made of more glorious matter than what your earthly eyes can see.  No matter how lost or despairing you may feel, the eternal God of the universe Who has always and will always love you is still in control.  Your eternal destination has not changed.  Although earthly circumstances may necessitate a different path than what you anticipated, that eternal destination is still within your reach.

So reach after it.  Abandon your doubts and embrace your faith.  Forsake your fears and face the glorious future awaiting you.  When you choose Christ, He’ll stand by you for each step you can take and carry you for each step you cannot.  Choose Him today and start to experience the hope that can lead to more joy in your journey home.
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