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Miracles still happen

12/9/2020

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The Lord blessed me abundantly with this tender mercy, and my heart overflows with gratitude that miracles still happen.
The other day I received an unexpected surprise.  (Now there’s a real mystery.  How could anything be a surprise and not be unexpected?)  It absolutely elated me.  And since this is the Christmas season, I’m calling it my Christmas miracle.  And as crazy as 2020 has been, any miracle is most welcome.

If you’re a long-time member of my audience, you know I haven’t taken well to social media.  The pandemic has helped change that, but still I’m not intertwined with social media.

That may change.  The other day an old friend I haven’t heard from in some 20 years reached out to me via Facebook.  After all the craziness of 2020, it felt so good to be reunited, if only through chat messages, with a dear friend.  The Lord blessed me abundantly with this tender mercy, and my heart overflows with gratitude that miracles still happen.

How it started

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My friend and I served in the same mission — in the same district, in fact.  She and her companion were from Honduras.  As my companion was also from Honduras, I got dragged into a small circle of Honduran expats serving the Lord across the border.

We all got along famously, but this particular sister and I really hit it off.  We never broke any mission rules; we were completely appropriate in our interactions.  And yet we each felt there was something special about each other.

I was in my last area when we met, and so before long the time came for me to go home.  I had a wool blanket that had served me well but would not fit into any of my luggage.  I had no choice but to leave it behind.  I could have just left it for some future elder, but I chose instead to gift it to this sister.  I remembered her remarking at our last district meeting how cold she was at night, and I felt prompted to gift her the blanket.

She received my surprise gift with great joy.  And now all these years later, I’ve received her surprise gift with great joy this Christmas season as we have reconnected.

How it stopped

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We kept in contact after I returned home.  These were days when cellular phones were the size of bricks and email, though not new, was still in its infancy.  And so our communication occurred through handwritten letters.

Because the postal system in many Latin American countries is unreliable, the Church made arrangements to organize its own postal service for missionaries called POUCH.  (I’m sure that’s an acronym or has some significant meaning, but don’t ask me to know it, because I couldn’t tell you.)  Though I was no longer a full-time missionary, she still was.  And so POUCH worked out great.

We kept writing letters through POUCH after she returned home.  Now neither one of us were full-time missionaries.  For some reason, our letters continued to get exchanged, but it wasn’t to last.  Eventually, my last letter was returned with a notice written on the outside of the envelope to use the regular postal service.

I totally understood.  Using this system for missionaries while we weren’t missionaries put the whole system at risk of being shut down.  And if you’ve served a mission, you know how important mail can be for maintaining motivation and morale.  So I wasn’t going to argue.  But I did miss my friend and the joy I felt in reading her letters.

How it continues

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Now imagine my joy to see a Facebook message from that same friend after all these years.  We quickly learned about each other’s careers in the intervening years.  We shared stories about COVID and how the church has responded in each of our home countries.  And we relived the joy of friendship we shared all those years ago.  We picked up so well it was as though we had never lost contact.

Yes, miracles still happen.  And what better time for a miracle than the Christmas season?  This unexpected but warmly welcomed gift fills my heart with gratitude not only for my Christmas miracle but also for the greatest Christmas miracle of all.  As the source of all good, He is everything.  We have nothing without Him.

And so as we #LightTheWorld this Christmas season, let us open our hearts to the miracles that can unfold in our own lives.  Miracles still happen, both during Christmas and all year round.  When you open yourself to possibility and give freely to others, sooner or later others will give freely to you.  And that will bring you more joy in your journey.

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A perfect brightness of hope

4/8/2020

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Great and glorious blessings await each of as we stand firm in our faith and continually choose hope over despair.
Wasn’t Conference wonderful?  We’ve been greatly blessed to have living prophets and apostles provide counsel, instruction, and guidance as well as comfort and hope in the midst of an ever troubling time.  While the world is enveloped in fear and uncertainty, we can live immersed in faith and assurance that God still lives, still loves us, and still works His wondrous plan for the human family.

Many of the Conference addresses provided this hope, so selecting just one for the program today was as challenging as always.  But speaking of hope, one speaker specifically addressed that topic.  In his remarks entitled, “A Perfect Brightness of Hope,” Elder Jeffrey R. Holland beautifully tied the Restoration of the Lord’s gospel to our hopes for the future.
Part of what enabled him to do this is the Restoration’s fulfillment of the hopes of ancient prophets and saints.  They looked forward to the Restoration as a time when all gospel blessings would be enjoined together.  Indeed, we who live today have the glorious blessing of the fulness of the Lord’s gospel.  And those fruits can enable us to have a perfect brightness of hope for ourselves, our world, and our future.

See the blessings

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Elder Holland begins with a list of what he would be looking for in religion were he living in 1820.  He and his wife imagined themselves transported back in time with the same spiritual longings that many of the world’s inhabitants have possessed throughout time.

Elder’s Holland’s list provides a wonderful review of the glorious truths restored to humanity — the true nature and character of God, a clearer understanding of God’s plan for His children and especially the role of the Savior in that plan, an additional scriptural witness that enhances one’s understanding of the Lord’s life and ministry, and true priesthood authority to dispense every ordinance required for salvation and exaltation.

Elder Holland saved the crowning blessing for last.  In his own words, he would have searched


everywhere to find someone authorized to say to me and my beloved Patricia that our marriage in such a setting was sealed for time and all eternity, never to hear or have imposed on us the haunting curse “until death do you part.” I know that “in [our] Father’s house are many mansions,” but, speaking personally, if I were to be so fortunate as to inherit one of them, it could be no more to me than a decaying shack if Pat and our children were not with me to share that inheritance.
Indeed, the blessings which the temple extends to bind the living and the dead across eternity truly crown the joy which living the restored gospel offers.  As Elder Holland declared,

Beginning in the Sacred Grove and continuing to this day, these desires began to be clothed in reality and became, as the Apostle Paul and others taught, true anchors to the soul, sure and steadfast. What was once only hoped for has now become history.

Look ahead

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Elder Holland then directs our attention towards the future.  The fulfillment of the hope of ancient prophets and saints for their future can give us hope for the fulfillment of blessings in our future.

Conquering the COVID-19 crisis is perhaps the most immediate of those hopes for the world.  But once we overcome that challenge — and Elder Holland assures we will — other challenges will remain, such as hunger, poverty, safer schools, and the eradication of prejudice.  And of course, truly conquering those physical challenges will require the adoption of spiritual solutions, what Elder Holland called


greater devotion to the two greatest of all commandments: to love God by keeping His counsel and to love our neighbors by showing kindness and compassion, patience and forgiveness. These two divine directives are still —and forever will be —the only real hope we have for giving our children a better world than the one they now know.
Elder Holland then gets deeply personal, and here is where he packs his best punch.

In addition to having these global desires, many in this audience today have deeply personal hopes: hope for a marriage to improve, or sometimes just hope for a marriage; hope for an addiction to be conquered; hope for a wayward child to come back; hope for physical and emotional pain of a hundred kinds to cease. Because the Restoration reaffirmed the foundational truth that God does work in this world, we can hope, we should hope, even when facing the most insurmountable odds. That is what the scripture meant when Abraham was able to hope against hope — that is, he was able to believe in spite of every reason not to believe — that he and Sarah could conceive a child when that seemed utterly impossible. So, I ask, “If so many of our 1820 hopes could begin to be fulfilled with a flash of divine light to a mere boy kneeling in a patch of trees in upstate New York, why should we not hope that righteous desires and Christlike yearnings can still be marvelously, miraculously answered by the God of all hope?” We all need to believe that what we desire in righteousness can someday, someway, somehow yet be ours.
Isn’t that what we all hope for?  Many LDS singles hope for a more perfect life, yet marriage never made anyone’s life suddenly perfect.  You simply exchange one set of challenges for another.

That said, the hope that marriage can improve one’s life is not unrealistic, especially if one (to borrow a phrase from President Oaks) “marries right.”  We LDS singles, no matter our individual circumstances, can and should hope for the achievement of righteous blessings, not only even when that fulfillment seems impossible but especially when that fulfillment seems impossible.

Feel the hope

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I suppose that’s why this Conference address touched me.  I’m in my mid-40s having never been married.  What hope do I have not just of finding the right type of person who would want to marry me but also of having a family of my own, not just one I inherit from a now severed relationship?

I think Elder Holland would say I have every reason to hope.  And so do you.  The God who has performed miracles in the past can and will perform miracles in our present and our future.  I echo with Elder Holland the message of a returned sister missionary in Johannesburg: “[We] did not come this far only to come this far.”  Great and glorious blessings await each of us as we stand firm in our faith and continually choose hope over despair.

Truly, the Restoration has blessed us all.  The hope of past believers fulfilled gives us hope our present desires for righteous blessings will not be in vain.  Choose that faith over fear.  Choose that hope over despair.  When we walk in the perfect brightness of that hope, we’ll progress towards our best life.  And that will bring us more joy in our journey.

You can listen to the monologue from today's episode of Joy In The Journey Radio here.  Please also feel free to continue the conversation by leaving a comment below.  Want to hear more?  Listen to the whole show by going to the show page for this episode.
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Don't you dare

3/27/2019

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"These accomplishments and dreams inspire me.  Yet my mind turns to those who could have such accomplishments and dreams but don’t.  They don’t believe they’re meant for anything extraordinary.  They don’t see how anything approaching greatness could ever involve them.  The future they see holds no promise, no hope, and no joy."
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I’ve been thinking recently about what I do here — this program, the blog, and everything connected to it.  I’ve had such hopes and plans for helping LDS singles everywhere live better, more joyful lives.  I still do.

Bit by bit, it’s all coming together.  I’ve come so far since that very first blog post on 12/12/12.  I’ve come so far from that first blog post on this website, the post in which I declared my desire for real in my life.  I’ve come so far from providing audio clip readings of my posts.  And I’ve got farther yet to go before I’m done.

These accomplishments and dreams inspire me.  Yet my mind turns to those who could have such accomplishments and dreams but don’t.  They don’t believe they’re meant for anything extraordinary.  They don’t see how anything approaching greatness could ever involve them.  The future they see holds no promise, no hope, and no joy.

If that describes you, I hope you listen closely to the program today.  I have a special message just for you.  And it’s this: Don’t you dare give up on yourself.

Choose your joy

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I know the depths of depression, the darkness that can envelope a soul in despair so devoid of hope that one wonders how life could ever be joyful for any but the luckiest among us.  But I also know that vision doesn’t have to represent anyone’s reality.  You can choose your joy.

Once, my sense of “logic” would find such statements repugnant, not to mention incomprehensible.  What I see now that I didn’t see then are the faulty assumptions underneath that thinking.  Just because others believe something doesn’t make it true.  Nor does it mean you have to believe it.  You can believe what you want to believe.

And you can believe that what you believe and how you think will ultimately determine your reality.  That’s how our brains are biologically hardwired.  You can choose to think more effectively, to give yourself messages filled with positive energy, to put controls around your emotions, to choose your joy.  You can choose your reality.

Let your light shine

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Because you can choose your reality, you can choose to be a victim, or you can choose to be a victor.  You can choose to wallow within your own self-absorption.  Or you can choose to look outside yourself to how you can bless the lives of others.

Think of what that means.  We all posses the awesome potential for bringing goodness into the world, for making a real difference in the lives of others.  That means you have that potential.  You can inspire others to shine their lights bringing goodness into the lives of others when you shine your light bringing goodness into their lives.

But what would happen if you choose not to shine your light, not to make your contribution of goodness into the world?  Would others falter because they never had the light you could shine?  Would someone surrender to negativity because he or she didn’t have quite enough reserves to resist, reserves that would have been sufficient with your contribution?

The Master taught, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven” (Matthew 5:16).  What distance between God and individual men and women will not be shortened when you choose not to make your contribution?

Partner with Him

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That’s why you should never dare to give up on yourself.  It’s not about you; it’s about all of us.  So when you give up on yourself, you’re giving up on the people who stand to benefit from the contribution you could make, a contribution only you can make.  When you give up on yourself, you give up on all of the rest of us.

When many of us look our meager offerings, we wonder how so much could ever hang in the balance.  How could our contribution ever be so important?  The Lord’s disciples thought this way when they saw they had only five loaves and two fishes (see Matthew 14:17).  How could so little feed so many?  And yet in the hands of the Master it did.  Likewise, the Master can work miracles in the lives of others as you follow His direction to give your contribution.

Don’t you dare give up on yourself!  When life looks bleak, partner with the Lord.  He will heal you so you believe in yourself and your contribution.  He will lead you to those who need your contribution.  And His hands will transform your contribution into miracles in their lives.  You can bask in their love for you and for the Lord when you make that contribution you can make.  And that will bring more joy in your journey.

You can listen to the monologue from today's episode of Joy In The Journey Radio here.  Please also feel free to continue the conversation by leaving a comment below.  Want to hear more?  Listen to the whole show by going to the show page for this episode.
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Believe, love, do

2/20/2019

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"When we truly believe with all our hearts, love God and others with all our hearts, and do the right things for us with all our hearts, we will not just feel happy but be happy."
With all the recent talk on the program lately of striving for our best life, I find Elder Dieter F Uchtdorf’s remarks from the latest General Conference applicable, particularly for LDS singles.  Of course, he wasn’t speaking directly to singles, but that’s the wonderful thing about Conference.  You can often take what seems to be general and apply it specifically with terrific results.
Elder Uchtdorf’s remarks are no exception.  He begins by describing King Solomon’s trappings of worldly success — money, power, fame, prestige.  But at the end of his life, King Solomon described his success as vanity.  All his advantages weren’t enough to secure his happiness.

Many LDS singles experience something similar.  Though they’ve many blessings surrounding them every day, because they focus excessively on the one blessing they lack, they too see life as vanity.  They too wonder what really has worth when the blessings they want most continually seem out of reach.

Of course, it need not be that way.  Life is wonderful and beautiful.  And Elder Uchtdorf describes how we can capture that vision everyday when we believe, love, and do.

Believe

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Everything starts with belief.  That’s why faith in the Lord Jesus Christ is the first principle of the gospel.  If we don’t believe, we’ll never receive.

That’s because true belief always motivates to action.  You wouldn’t flip a light switch in a room if you didn’t believe the lights would come on.  Everything you do is based on a belief that some result connected with your action will occur or could occur.

Elder Uchtdorf agrees.  He declared,


In my experience, belief is not so much like a painting we look at and admire and about which we discuss and theorize.  It is more like a plow that we take into the fields and, by the sweat of our brow, create furrows in the earth that accept seeds and bear fruit that shall remain.
I remember a time in my life when I wanted all the trite sayings about having a happy life to be more than just words but something I felt and lived every day.  I wanted more than just the same old superficiality, pretending the life I wanted was just around the corner.  In short, I wanted real.

I think that point comes into the life of all LDS singles who are single when they thought they wouldn’t be.  Whether through divorce or death or just not marrying, LDS singles hunger for real in their lives.

But do you believe — I mean, really believe — you can get it?  Do you believe the miracle you want to happen can happen?  That it will happen?  Belief is always the first step.  If you don’t believe, you’ll never receive.

Love

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The belief God will perform a miracle for you becomes easier when you feel His love for you.  This is why the Prophet Joseph Smith taught one cannot have faith in Christ without a true understanding of God’s character.  It’s through God’s love we best realize all of God’s attributes.

That’s because, when we feel God’s love for us, that love simultaneously communicates every other attribute describing God.  When you feel God’s love for you, you know more than just that He loves you.  You know He’s good because His love is good.  You know He’s kind because His love is kind.  You know He’s compassionate because His love is compassionate.  You know He’s merciful because His love is merciful.  You know He’s just because His love is just.

Elder Uchtdorf declared,


The love Jesus spoke about ... isn’t a gift-card, throwaway, move-on-to-other-things love.  It isn’t a love that is spoken of and then forgotten.  It is not a ‘let me know if there is anything I can do’ sort of love.

The love God speaks of is the kind that enters our hearts when we awake in the morning, stays with us throughout the day, and swells in our hearts as we give voice to our prayers of gratitude at evening’s end.

John the Beloved spoke truly when he wrote, “He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love” (1 John 4:8).  When you truly believe, you can reach out to Him and taste of His love.

Do

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Of course, love like faith prompts us to action.  The Prophet Joseph Smith taught that the man or woman “filled with the love of God is not content with blessing his [or her] family alone, but ranges through the whole world, anxious to bless the whole human race.”  When we fully give ourselves to that effort, we can transcend any of life’s difficulties, including the challenges of LDS singles life.

That’s why I’ve long encouraged LDS singles to adopt a personal ministry.  When we partner with the Lord, a personal ministry can increase our belief in God and the miraculous blessings He wants to give us as well as provide opportunity for us to love those we serve the way God loves them.  And when we allow the love of God to motivate us in fulfilling our personal ministry, we can feel for them the way God feels for them and see them the way He sees them.

Elder Uchtdorf invites,


Come, help us build and strengthen a culture of healing, kindness, and mercy toward all of God’s children.  For we are all striving to become new creatures where ‘old things are passed away’ and ‘all things ... become new.’  The Savior shows us the direction to move — forward and upward.  He says, ‘If ye love me, keep my commandments,’ Let us all work together to become the people God intended for us to become....

In the Church of Jesus Christ, we join with others who seek a place where we can feel at home — a place of growth where, together, we can believe, love, and do.  Regardless of our differences, we seek to embrace one another as sons and daughters of our beloved Heavenly Father....

I testify and leave you my blessing that as we believe in God, as we love Him and love His children with all our hearts, and as we strive to do as God has instructed us, we will find healing and peace, happiness and meaning.

I add my testimony to that of Elder Uchtdorft that when we truly believe with all our hearts, love God and others with all our hearts, and do the right things for us with all our hearts, we will not just feel happy but be happy.  And that will bring more joy in our journey.
You can listen to the monologue from today's episode of Joy In The Journey Radio here.  Please also feel free to continue the conversation by leaving a comment below.  Want to hear more?  Listen to the whole show by going to the show page for this episode.
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Give your gift

12/5/2018

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"We best embrace the spirit of the season when we kick doubt and fear out the door and just do the good we can.  When you ignore any insecurities you may feel about the quality of your gift and just give your gift, you’ll find the light of Christ burning brighter in the world as well as your own life."
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We all know Christmas time as the season of giving, and rightly so.  We give gifts to friends and family because Christ gave the greatest gift ever.  His sacrifice makes it possible for us all to return to live with Him and our Heavenly Father.

I don’t know how many of us are thinking about Christ’s glorious gift when we gift that awful looking tie to a father, those bunny slippers to a mother, or that special toy to a child.  But not all gifts of value come wrapped in paper and ribbon.  Many of these gifts are more worthy of reminding us of the real reason why we give gifts this season.

The best part is that we all have those sorts of gifts to give.  The worst part is that many of us fail to give those gifts.  We compare our gifts with those others have to offer.  Seeing ourselves lacking, we heed the persuasions of doubt and fear to hide away our contribution.  “Who am I to offer anything meaningful?” we question.

Yet we best embrace the spirit of the season when we kick doubt and fear out the door and just do the good we can.  When you ignore any insecurities you may feel about the quality of your gift and just give your gift, you’ll find the light of Christ burning brighter in the world as well as your own life.

Recognize your light

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Nature teaches that every child has the potential to become as the parent.  As sons and daughters of a loving Heavenly Father, we have the potential to become as perfect a Giver as He is.  And we develop that potential by following Christ’s example.

The Savior always sought out the one.  Sure, He fed 5000 with a few fish and five loaves of bread, but we have many more accounts of Him ministering to individuals: The woman at the well, the man born blind, the adulteress caught in the act, the woman with an issue of blood, His disciple Peter whom He instructed to feed His sheep — the list goes on and on.

Surely many of us will not be performing the miracles He performed.  But we can all be a miracle in the life of someone who needs lifting to higher ground.  We can share a smile, give a hug, offer a listening ear, and reach out with love and understanding.  These acts may seem small, but they feed the needs we all have to feel loved, understood, and nourished.

Avoid the comparisons

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Here many of us hold back from giving our gifts of love, compassion, hope, and positive energy.  We compare our gift with what we see someone else offering, something we judge to be superior to our own gift.  “Wouldn’t they want the better gift?” goes the rationalization.

We spend far too much time comparing ourselves to others in just about every way imaginable, so it’s no surprise we compare in the arena of gift giving as well.  But the goodness of a gift doesn’t come from its superiority over other gifts.  The goodness of a gift comes from the light and love which surround the gift.  And only you can offer your unique combination of light and love to others.

Sources of light will vary, but any light is welcome in a dark room, no matter how dim or dispersed.  In like manner, anyone living in a dark world will welcome any light into their lives.  Any light will provide relief from any ominous burden of darkness.  The sooner we quit comparing our gifts with those of others, the sooner we can offer our gifts to others and relieve them of that burden of darkness.

Make your contribution

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Perhaps a unique gift of goodness you can make has entered your mind.  Don’t suppress that generous thought.  Don’t withhold your gift by delving into an endless debate of whether or not that idea came from God or your own thinking.  If your offering brings goodness into the world, give your gift.

Just give.  That’s the advice we all get from that little stream hurrying down the hill in a popular Primary song.  That stream didn’t provide much water to the surrounding fields, and yet those fields grew greener still.  Likewise, the gift you have to give, no matter its size, can bring love, light, and goodness into the lives of others.

This Christmas season, just give your gift.  What can you do to lift someone’s burdens?  What can you do to offer hope in brighter tomorrow?  Even if your light is only a glimmer, when you give your gift, you make the world a better place.  And that will bring more joy in your journey.

You can listen to the monologue from today's episode of Joy In The Journey Radio here.  Please also feel free to continue the conversation by leaving a comment below.  Want to hear more?  Listen to the whole show by going to the show page for this episode!
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You can’t touch this

6/20/2018

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"Most LDS singles are in that same boat.  As long as you’ve each waited for the fulfillment of your desired blessings, you haven’t waited anywhere near as long as Abraham had to wait.  So you can’t touch this."
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Sooner or later, everyone encounters hard times.  It’s called mortality, and it’s part of the reason why we’re here.  Overcoming challenges allows us to learn in ways we could not otherwise learn and to become what we otherwise could not become.

If we focus too much on our challenges, however, we can easily succumb to feelings of overwhelm and discouragement, even despair.  Some people escape their doldrums by remembering that there is always someone who is worse off than they are.  For some LDS singles who have struggled for years without promised blessings, it may seem difficult to believe that anyone has had it worse than they do.

And yet there are those who have had it worse.  The scriptures provide an excellent example in Abraham.  When you come to realize how much worse he had it, you can find the courage and resiliency to keep walking by faith.  After all, most of us can’t touch Abraham’s experience.

The challenges

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By the standards of any age in world history, Abraham had a challenging life.  He was once placed on an altar to be sacrificed, only to have an angel save him.  He was constantly on the move, and in one of those places to which he moved, his brother died.  He had to deal with apostasy in his father, a problem since he longed to have what his father’s ancestors had — priesthood authority passed down from father to son.  Having a father who continually returned to idol worship didn’t really help much in that respect.

And yet, like life for all of us, it wasn’t all bad.  He obtained priesthood authority from someone more righteous and more advanced in years than his father.  He grew to become a rather wealthy man, leading a house with many servants.  And somewhere in that mix he married Sarah, a wife he dearly loved.

But try as they might, infertility entered and would not leave.  Whatever hopes Abraham had for a son to inherit from him must have slowly faded as the years went by one after the other with no change anywhere in sight.  It’s understandable why Abraham fathered a son through Hagar, one of Sarah’s handmaidens.  It seemed to be the only way to produce an heir.

The promise

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Then came the Lord’s promise.  After so many years of wanting and not having, Abraham received a promise from the Lord that he would have a son through his wife Sarah.  He was 62 years old.

His wife Sarah was ten years his junior, so it’s no surprise that she laughed at the thought of giving birth to a son.  Abraham also had his doubts.  Those doubts would continue as they each got older.  It was during this time that Abraham had a son through Hagar.  What seemed incredible when the promise was made seemed even more so with each year passing thereafter.

But the Lord reaffirmed His promise would be fulfilled.  And we all know how the story ends.  Sarah did give birth to Abraham’s son Isaac.  Sarah was ninety years old.  Abraham had lived a full century.

The faith

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I’m not suggesting that we need to live a full century before we see the fulfillment of the promises the Lord has made to each of us.  Instead, I’m suggesting we live in faith, faith born from reflecting on Abraham’s position relative to our own.

Abraham was 62 years old when he first received the promise of a son and 100 years old when that promise was fulfilled.  That means he had to wait 38 years for the fulfillment of the Lord’s promise to him.  That’s a long time to wait.

And I’m willing to wager (though I’m not a betting man) that most of us waiting for the fulfillment of our own blessings have a ways to go before we can touch Abraham territory.  I myself have been single for more than two decades.  As long as that has been to endure, it’s only about half of what Abraham endured.  Clearly, I can’t touch this.

Most LDS singles are in that same boat.  As long as you’ve each waited for the fulfillment of your desired blessings, you haven’t waited anywhere near as long as Abraham had to wait.  So you can’t touch this either.

The Lord pulled through for Abraham.  He’ll pull through for each of us.  As we continue to walk in faith that all of His promises will be fulfilled, He will send us many tender mercies to support us.  We can feel the confidence that we will receive our promised blessings.  And that will bring us more joy in our journey.

You can listen to the monologue from today's episode of Joy In The Journey Radio here.  Please also feel free to continue the conversation by leaving a comment below.  Want to hear more?  Listen to the whole show by going to the show page for this episode!
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Revelation can help

5/16/2018

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"We all have questions that can be answered and challenges that can be solved with the divine inspiration that comes from revelation.  But do we have the power-packed combination President Nelson offered?"
For too many Latter-day Saints, General Conference comes every six months, provides a spiritual feast, and then is placed on a shelf until the next Conference.  That’s why I decided some time ago to include Conference addresses in the list of show topics for each year.  If nothing else, I get reminders to return to Conference and allow its benefit to penetrate deeper into my life.
Because it’s always good to know what the living Prophet said in the last Conference, my selection wasn’t difficult to make.  In “Revelation for the Church, Revelation for Our Lives,” President Russell M. Nelson spoke of our increasing need to include personal revelation in our lives.  And he did so by sharing experiences with revelation from his own life.

Said he,

One of the things the Spirit has repeatedly impressed upon my mind since my new calling as President of the Church is how willing the Lord is to reveal His mind and will.  The privilege of receiving revelation is one of the greatest gifts of God to His children.  Through the manifestations of the Holy Ghost, the Lord will assist us in all our righteous pursuits.
Later he revealed (pun intended) how we can best receive that revelation in our lives.

Nothing opens the heavens quite like the combination of increased purity, exact obedience, earnest seeking, daily feasting on the words of Christ in the Book of Mormon, and regular time committed to temple and family history work.
We all have questions that can be answered and challenges that can be solved with the divine inspiration that comes from revelation.  But do we have the power-packed combination President Nelson offered?

Pure and obedient

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Increased purity and exact obedience go hand in hand.  You can’t have one without the other.  We increase our purity only by aligning ourselves more closely to standards of truth, and that means obeying the commandments with more exactness.

I remember on my mission we were constantly encouraged to be “Ammon missionaries.” Ammon performed every command given him (Alma 18:10) and as a result had wonderful missionary opportunities open to him.  Years later, many of the sons of the converts Ammon taught went to battle under Helaman’s command.  Mormon ascribes their miraculous preservation in battle to their faith, which they had because “they did obey and observe to perform every word of command with exactness” (Alma 57:21).

How exact are we in our obedience?  Are we unable to receive the revelation we need to do wonderful things because our tolerance for impurity is too low?  Are we kept from our best life solely by the essential bits of information we might have received had we been more committed?

Seeking and feasting

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Just as purity and obedience go hand in hand, so too do earnest seeking and feasting daily from the Book of Mormon.  Earnest seekers of answers to questions and solutions to challenges will look to hear God’s voice through many channels.  And an obvious channel is the scriptures.

And in no book of scripture can we hear the voice of heaven more clearly than in the Book of Mormon.  This book was prepared for us in our day.  The ancient prophet Alma the Younger instructed his son Helaman that the Lord was preparing the plates from which the Book of Mormon was later translated “that he may show forth his power unto future generations” (Alma 37:14).  I believe part of that “power” is an increased capacity to hear the voice of God provide answers to our questions and solutions to our challenges.

Of course, we don’t always get answers and solutions just for the asking.  Some times we’re left to struggle with our questions and challenges because that struggle will help us to grow in a way we other wouldn’t if we received everything on demand.  But, as President Nelson promises,


... as you continue to be obedient, expressing gratitude for every blessing the Lord gives you, and you patiently honor the Lord’s timetable, you will be given the knowledge and understanding you seek.  Every blessing the Lord has for you — even miracles — will follow.  That is what personal revelation will do for you.
Certainly these blessings come after we do our part.  So how are we doing?  Are we earnestly seeking for answers while feasting every day in the Book of Mormon?

Committed to temple and family history work

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The final part of President Nelson’s power-packed combination is like icing on a cake.  Temples are natural places of revelation, and the family history work that supports temple work naturally invites revelation.  Both provide ways for us to practice the increased receptivity to revelation gained from increased purity, exact obedience, earnest seeking, and daily feasting in the Book of Mormon.

I confess that lately I’ve been slacking here.  There’s no reason why I can’t attend the temple weekly.  In fact, I’ve never before had so little excuse not to attend weekly as I live conveniently to two temples.  But like most things in life, if you don’t schedule the time to go and then commit to follow that schedule, life can easily crowd out family history and temple service.

That’s why I like President Nelson’s description: “regular time committed.”  We need to establish a time when we will go to the temple and when we will participate in some aspect of family history work.  And then we need to commit ourselves to follow through on our plans.

What questions do you need answered?  What challenges do you need solved?  Revelation can help.  When we follow President Nelson’s counsel, that blessing can be ours.  And that will bring us more joy in our journey.

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A house in order

5/2/2018

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"In the end, the conscious choices we make in managing our money reveal the discipline we have in managing ourselves.  By making the right conscious choices, we can have a house in order."
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Making conscious choices allows you to overcome the challenges of your life.  By breaking you out of autopilot, they break you free of the bonds of a mediocre life.

But your life won’t escape mediocrity if you make conscious choices about only a few things.  You must make conscious choices about everything.  That can burden just as much as the mediocre life your conscious choices helps you overcome.

Instead of swapping burdens around, you can leverage the power of habit.  By working on your life one area at a time, you can adopt the habit of making conscious choices in a way that tips the balance towards liberating you.

For many, personal finances will likely top that list of life areas to reform.  New Years resolutions regarding finances enjoy almost as much popularity as losing weight.  Plus it’s just hard to feel free in other aspects of your life when this one area has you in bondage.

You need not feel imprisoned.  Just as you can free yourself from the shackles of old, defunct ways of thinking, you can remove the chains of financial servitude.  You can put your house in order.

Pay your tithing

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The first step is to give the Creator of the universe what He’s marked as His.  In so doing, you access the powers of heaven.  Given the strong, thick cords that often comprise financial bonds, getting all the help you can just makes sense.

In my life, I’ve almost always paid tithing.  Yes, I said almost.  And yes, there’s a story behind that.

When I switched my career to education, I couldn’t find a job.  So I made my own by starting a tutoring business.  I learned lots in that experience, but I also didn’t make any money.  And when you don’t make any money, you don’t pay tithing.

I had that business for just over a year — plenty of time to develop a habit of not paying tithing.  So when I finally found a job in education, I followed my default habit and didn’t pay tithing.  And, as I look back now upon that time, I see I didn’t have the blessings that come with paying tithing.

I’ve worked hard to re-establish the habit I once had, and now I’m seeing the blessings from paying tithing.  The Lord has provided miracle after miracle in providing me financial support once I first walk by faith and pay my tithing.  No financial house can be in order where tithing is not paid.

Eliminate your debt

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Of course, excessive debt also indicates a financial house out of order.  No matter how hard you work, interest will always work harder.  Interest never sleeps.  Interest never eats.  Interest never stops.

Just like turning off the faucet stops an overflowing bathtub, the first step to clearing debt is to stop the flow of new charges to your existing debt.  This requires a huge amount of discipline which many people don’t have (which is why they have financial problems to begin with).

But there’s good news.  If you pay your tithing, you can access the powers of heaven to turn things around.  I can’t tell you how amazing it felt to write the last check that paid off my student loans.  I also remember when I received the title for my car.  Those were wonderful moments when I savored freedom.

They didn’t come all at once.  They came as I exercised the discipline month after month to pay the small portions I could every month.  Step by step, I achieved my freedom.

Save what you can

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Once you get out of debt, it’s best to stay out.  And part of that is having enough in store to weather the rainy days that will surely come your way.  One accident, one job loss, or one other unfortunate event can quickly bring you back into the bondage of indebtedness.

Again, the end result doesn’t happen overnight.  You need the discipline month after month to set aside what little you can every month into savings.  And you need the discipline not to touch that money outside of legitimate emergency need.

I’ve never been a profligate spender, so I’ve always saved by default.  Most people aren’t that way; they spend most of what they earn every month.  Still, I can see some wisdom in making the conscious choice to set aside a certain amount for savings every month.  There’s a difference between simply letting something happen and acting to ensure it happens.

In the end, the conscious choices we make in managing our money reveal the discipline we have in managing ourselves.  By making the right conscious choices, we can have a house in order.  And that will bring us more joy in our journey.

You can listen to the monologue from today's episode of Joy In The Journey Radio here.  Please also feel free to continue the conversation by leaving a comment below.  Want to hear more?  Listen to the whole show by going to the show page for this episode!
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Make your miracle happen

4/25/2018

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"Whatever miracle you want in your life, that miracle won’t happen by itself.  Someone needs to act, and that someone is you!  If you truly want it, you can make your miracle happen."
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Everyone dreams of living a better life, yet we all respond to those dreams differently.  Some while away the days not doing much to move closer to those dreams.  Others are doing something, only they’re stuck.  Try as they might, they just can’t seem to succeed.  Either way, it seems like everyone needs a miracle for their dreams to come true.

And then there’s those I call patient fools.  They believe the absence of the miracle they need means it must not be the right time.  And so they patiently wait, expecting their miracle to deliver their dreams when the time becomes right.

For many LDS singles, that miracle is finding an eternal companion.  Some dream about the day it will happen but never take action to move towards it.  Others take action but can’t seem to make any progress.  Still others simply wait, thinking the time is somehow not yet right.

Whatever miracle you want in your life, that miracle won’t happen by itself.  Someone needs to act, and that someone is you!  If you truly want it, you can make your miracle happen.

Take action

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Dreams inspire us with a vision of possibility.  They animate the imagination and stir something within the soul.  Yet no dream enters reality on its own.  We must take action!

The world didn’t just appear out of nowhere.  Under the direction of our Creator, heavenly workers took action.  Those workers then returned to report their labors.  The miracle that is Earth did not happen all at once but step by step as action was taken.

In like manner, your dreams will never happen unless you take action.  Yes, taking action introduces change, and with change comes new challenges and new concerns.  But only through action will your dreams become reality.

And you can respond to those challenges and concerns with faith.  Partner with the Lord.  By returning to Him every day to report the actions you’ve taken, you can receive counsel and direction regarding your next steps.  When you take those steps and then return and report again, you can counsel with Him regarding the next steps.  By walking consistently in faith, you can make your miracle happen.

Take the right action

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Many of us aren’t just sitting on the sidelines of life twiddling our thumbs.  No, we’re out there taking action.  The problem is we don’t seem to be going anywhere.

The pursuit for eternal companionship leaves many LDS singles feeling like that hamster down at the local pet store.  That hamster takes action, exerting tons of energy to run faster and go farther.  But in the end, running inside a wheel doesn’t move the hamster that far.

Likewise, many LDS singles exert tons of energy running between conferences and other activities.  But in the end, they don’t move very far.

If this describes you, stop running inside a wheel, and start doing the right things for you.  You must take action, but not just any action will produce your miracle.  You must take the right action.  You must do what’s right for you.

I’ve talked before about how the right things are more than just the standards for being active LDS.  They include owning your life, opening yourself to possibilities, partnering with the Lord, and embracing a personal ministry by which you bring goodness into the world.  Each of these right actions contribute to making your miracle happen.

Take the right action now

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Some LDS singles have trouble accepting that truth.  They live under the myth that their blessings will come if they just live a righteous life.  They’re fine waiting until the “right” time for their miracle when it will just happen.

These patient fools have grown comfortable in their complacency.  They fool themselves into thinking their patience is rooted in faith.  But faith is a principle of action.  Patience truly rooted in faith is not passive, but active!

Patient fools also fool themselves into thinking the time for their miracle isn’t right just because it hasn’t happened yet.  I’ve previously described how many LDS singles use the concept of timing as a crutch.  Yes, the Lord has a timetable, but just because something hasn’t happened doesn’t mean the time isn’t right for it to happen.  The time can be as right as rain, but miracles require action to happen.

If you truly want it, you can make your miracle happen when you take the required action now.  Own your life.  Embrace a personal ministry.  Partner with the Lord.  Counsel with Him regarding your next steps.  Work hard and be open to possibility.  Then return and report to Him.  When you make the right things for you a lifestyle, you can make your miracle happen.  And that will bring you more joy in your journey.

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There is no Obi-Wan

8/17/2016

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Recently I’ve been considering how I arrived where I am today.  I remember a really dramatic episode from several years ago involving a woman I loved with all my heart.  I was in my mid-30s and considered her as my last chance to secure the blessings I’d been wanting for over a decade.

Everything seemed OK until my rose-colored glasses could no longer obscure the truth.  She called to tell me she was seeing another guy.  I still held hope things could turn around.  After all, we’re supposed to believe in miracles, right?

Only deep down I didn’t really believe a miracle would happen for me.  Instead I felt desperate.  It seemed my last hope was slipping away from me.  I kept thinking about what I didn’t want to have happen.  So what happened next shouldn’t surprise anyone.

She called on my birthday to say she was engaged to be married in two weeks.  She knew it was my birthday because earlier she sang “Happy birthday” into my voicemail.  As if stabbing me through the heart wasn’t enough, she twisted the knife by bluntly telling me I wasn’t invited to the wedding.

The excruciating emotional turmoil that ensued felt unbearable.  The anguish of being lost for eternity tortured me.  I felt more alone and forsaken than at any point in my life.  I entered a depression that took literal months to overcome.

See the opportunity

Looking back on the ensuing years, I’ve gained more perspective on that tragic episode.  I’ve met many people and learned from their experiences.  And of course I’ve had experiences of my own.

I’m reminded of the scene from Star Wars (Episode 4, or the first one from 1977) where Princess Leia provides secret plans to R2-D2 with instructions to convey them only to Obi-Wan Kenobi.  In the message she records for Obi-Wan, she pleads, “Help us, Obi-Wan. You’re our only hope.”
I’ve learned in the years since my tragic episode I wasn’t alone in seeing a specific relationship as my only hope for securing eternal blessings.  And I’ve also learned I created much of the pain and anguish I felt from losing that relationship.  I hurt like I did because of the way I was thinking.

That concept may shock some, but it’s no less true.  Sure, other people make choices, sometimes against us.  But we construct much of our reality, including our emotional reality, with our thinking.

The story has been told of two salesman who get up one morning and see a very wet and windy storm.  The first one says, “Wow, what a storm!  No one can expect us to go out and make sales today.”  He stays home.  The second one says, “Wow, what a storm! And what a great day to make sales.  Everyone will be home, even the other salesmen!”  Both men saw the same storm, but each had a different reality because each choose to see the same storm differently.  Where one saw an obstacle, the other saw an opportunity.

Really believe

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That’s what my experiences have taught me over the years.  As much as it once felt like I blew my last chance, God has provided others.  I just needed to see the opportunities instead of the obstacles.

Part of that required me to recognize what an opportunity actually is.  So many of us LDS singles think so narrowly in that regard we’re standing in our own way.  We place too many and too stringent filters up front, removing qualified candidates from our consideration.  And we view the whole dating journey through binary lenses which blind us from seeing any value in relationships that for whatever reason don’t end in marriage.

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Last week I provided the key to changing our perspective.  We need to believe the gospel — I mean, really believe it.  We know God loves us, but when you truly believe it, you’ll have the confidence He’s constantly working on clearing the next best pathway to your blessings.  We know God is all-knowing, all-powerful, etc., but when you truly believe He has His characteristics, you’ll walk in faith He’ll turn everything bad in your life into everything good.  All your mourning will turn into joy.

In truth, there is no Obi Wan.  There’s never a last and only chance for eternal happiness.  God loves you so much He’ll never stop providing you with opportunities to secure your blessings.  You just need to set your thinking straight.  You need to see the opportunities instead of the obstacles.  You need to believe what you know is true.  And you need to start doing the right things.  The sooner you get on that train, the sooner you’ll savor the joy you can have in life.

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