Many single adults, especially never-been-marrieds past their mid-20s, think all hope is lost when they don’t see any obvious opportunities for the marriage they long to have. Fundamentally, their lack of hope is no different from anyone else with righteous desires that appear difficult if not impossible to fulfill. A good example is the righteous married couple who wants to have biological children but can’t.
Yet in all cases hope abounds. No matter how bleak your circumstances may appear, you always have reason to hope. There is always hope because there is always Christ.
Access the truth
How do you believe that when all around you seems bleak and dismal? Almost all of us believe very readily in miracles that Christ performed among a people most of us don’t know in a land far away which most of us haven’t seen. Yet when it comes to believing in miracles performed in our own lives, we respond very slowly if at all. We need to open our hearts and start believing Him in everything.
Part of what makes that belief easier is a correct idea of life after death. Knowing that God has apportioned a time in which all wrongs will be righted encourages patience when things you don’t want to happen do in fact happen. Knowing that a just God will not wait to right your wrongs when the time to right them comes also encourages patience. There is always hope because there is always Christ.
Focus on Christ
Of course, patience doesn’t always appease the longing that pains the heart here and now. Because your focus determines your reality, those who focus on those pains have a reality filled with pain. These individuals should focus instead on the Savior so that He becomes their reality.
Christ didn’t teach that all His promised blessings would be available only after death. Nor did He teach that His promised blessings would be distributed like lunch on a buffet table — first come are first served and everyone else will just have to wait. He wants all of us to enjoy all His promised blessings. That means you.
Because you are unique in personality and demeanor, so also are the gifts that you have been given to help you to achieve your full potential. Some people may appear to have more than you. But just as in the parable of the talents, those who improve upon what they have, whatever that may be, will be received into the joy of the Lord. That joy can fill you now as well as in times to come. There is always hope because there is always Christ.
Christ will help you to prepare
We also find each other at different points in our life journey. If you look around, you should notice that some are ahead and others are behind in terms of spiritual progression. Christ wants all of His children to enjoy all of the blessings He has promised to the faithful. Yet some of the faithful, because of where they are in their life journey, may not be ready for some of those blessings.
In the case of marriage, both parties must be ready in order for the arrangement to bring a fullness of joy into the lives of both parties. If you are yearning for that special someone and wonder why you do not have the blessing you desire, consider that you may not be ready. Consider that your companion may not be ready. Or perhaps the time is right for both of you and you simply need to get busy doing the right things. In any of these cases, Christ can help you to prepare. There is always hope because there is always Christ.
See with spiritual eyes
If you see with no more than your physical eyes, then ultimately you will have no hope. You can look around and not physically see the means to achieve what you desire. Even here, there is always hope because there is always Christ.
Christ can help you to see with spiritual eyes. He can help you to see what is there but not seen with physical eyes. What you want may be right in front of you. But because of the way you see your world, you may not recognize you blessing.
Second, He can help you to see what does not now exist because it has yet to be created. What you desire may be something that He creates for you. Or it could be something that you have yet to create for yourself. In all cases, Christ will help you to do whatever is needful for you to receive all of the blessings which He desires to give you. There is always hope because there is always Christ.
Howdy! I'm Lance, host of Joy in the Journey Radio. I've been blogging about LDS singles life since 2012, and now I produce a weekly radio show to help LDS singles have more joy in their journey and bring all Latter-day Saints together. Let's engage a conversation that will increase the faith of LDS singles and bring singles and marrieds together in a true unity of the faith.
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