Yes, Elder Holland hit his usual home run. Elder Bednar taught healing truths about missionary service. We rejoiced to see and hear the Prophet speak in Conference. The list goes on, but something seems more inviting in Elder Choi’s remarks. Perhaps it’s because he declared
So often in our lives as LDS singles, we find ourselves in need of strength, balance, and healing. We can find all of these in the Savior when we look up to Him.
Life is hard for everyone. LDS singles are no exception. Although our challenges are all unique, the solution is very much the same. We must look to the Savior for the strength to soldier on.
When facing difficulty, we often wish life would be easier and wonder why the battle before us must be ours. Yet instead of wishing our situations were better, we should wish we were better. Learning how to conquer challenges is a major purpose of mortality. We’ll never do that unless we increase our inner strength and become more than what we now are.
No one can increase that strength within us more than Christ. His Atonement manifests His power through which He can transform us into new creatures able to do what before we could not do.
Elder Choi pointed us to the Savior when sharing this experience:
We can find the strength we need to conquer our challenges when we look up to the Lord.
Directing our focus to eternity can be challenging, especially when the reality of our mortal existence presses us to place our attention in the temporal world. We ease that difficulty when we balance what we see in our mortality with what we know about our eternity.
If we live life based only on what we see around us, we walk by sight. The more we walk by sight, the more reactive our approach to life becomes. Simply reacting to life is living on autopilot playing out previously programmed habits that lead ultimately to the unfulfilled life.
The restored gospel of Jesus Christ teaches life can be more wonderful when we walk by faith. We can use the gift of agency to choose consciously an approach to life aligned with gospel standards that responds rather than reacts to life. And we can balance what we see in mortality with what we know about eternity when making those choices.
Elder Choi spoke about our need for balance and how we can get it.
Our focus determines our reality. When we focus on the limitations of mortality, our reality will be one of limitation. But when we focus on embracing our own personal ministry of contribution to others, our reality will be a life that contributes back to us.
We can get in our own way of making that contribution to others when we cling to our past. For LDS singles, that past often includes heartache, loneliness, discouragement, and hopelessness. Many of us keep repeating those stories of failure to ourselves.
Yet carrying unnecessary baggage from the past does nothing but hold us back from living the full and joyful life we can live today. It’s much easier to move forward when our load is lighter. Still, letting go of the past can be difficult, especially when we hold on out of habit.
Elder Choi points us to the only lasting solution — the Savior.
Part of the healing we need comes from the power of Christ through His Atonement. Yet another part comes only as we step outside ourselves and realize our lives are smaller pieces in a much larger puzzle. Partnering with the Lord can help us let go of our past so we can make our full contribution to the plan of happiness God has for all His children. And by faithfully embracing a personal ministry that contributes to the lives of others and alleviates their pain, we can find our own pain alleviated.
The longer we look only around at our own lives, the more we will feel helpless, hopeless, and hurt. By looking up to the Lord, we can begin to receive the strength, balance, and healing we need to live our best life. And that will bring us more joy in our journey.
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