Many singles (especially those of us who have been single for at least a few years) can feel overwhelmed by a flood of desires and emotions, and not all of them are good. It's all too easy to drown in a sea of loneliness, disappointment, bitterness, and despair. And submerged too long in said emotions, it's easy to ask questions like "How in the world did I end up here?" and to feel that everything has turned so hopelessly topsy turvy that your existence is just crazy crazy.
That's right, I said crazy crazy --- not just crazy, but crazy crazy. Crazy crazy is a level above crazy. Life can get crazy if you have a little too much to do. But with crazy crazy, you've got so much to do that you can’t fit it all in. You feel like you barely have time to breathe. And your head hurts so much that you want to find the nearest roll of duct tape so that you can keep it from exploding.
Look for the little moments
But you weren't put here to suffer so that God could laugh or take some twisted delight in your agony. He loves you and wants you to be happy. And while some forms of happiness take time to develop, He has provided means for you to extract happiness every day in the little moments.
Case in point: I'm crazy crazy busy right now working on a revised draft of my book in response to some comments my editor made, but I was blessed with a little moment.
My little moment
A former roommate from my college days texted me. As I thought about him, I remembered an experience that we had while we roomed together.
This former roommate is the most avid U2 fan I have met in my life. Back in those days I didn't yet own an automobile. As our apartment was some distance from campus, my roommate would give me a ride to campus every morning. I would then walk back later in the day when I was ready to return.
One morning when I was rushed, I realized just as we were leaving that I had not yet had my morning prayers. I asked my roommate if he would mind waiting just a few minutes for me to pray. He agreed, so I went back into my room and shut the door.
It didn't take me long to discover what he had decided to do to pass the time while he waited. I soon found my mind competing between prayer and listening to the music he was playing, which of course was U2. I tried praying for help, but what came out of my mouth wasn't exactly what I intended. "Heavenly Father, please help me, . . . 'cause I can't live, with or without you!"
At that point, I knew I was sunk. So I ended my prayer, allowed myself to chuckle, and then left my room. I told my roommate what had just happened. He wasn't being devious; he was just trying to pass the time and that was what he happened to feel like listening to at that moment. I still remember his laugh as I recounted my experience. I laughed with him.
Find your little moment
Now, many years later, I had a little moment in which I was reminded of that little moment. I'm still laughing at that little moment, and that laughter still brings me pleasure.
This small moment appearing in the midst of my crazy crazy day provided another reminder. I was reminded that the Lord is aware of me, that He loves me, and He wants to help me.
Don’t be so caught up in the crazy crazy of your life that you miss the little moments. Find the little moments in your life. The Lord will remind you of His awareness and love for you. You just need to look for it.
Howdy! I'm Lance, host of Joy in the Journey Radio. I've been blogging about LDS singles life since 2012, and now I produce a weekly radio show to help LDS singles have more joy in their journey and bring all Latter-day Saints together. Let's engage a conversation that will increase the faith of LDS singles and bring singles and marrieds together in a true unity of the faith.
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