We need each other
My vision won’t surprise long time readers of this blog or anyone who’s read the introduction to my upcoming book. (You can download the first 60 pages for free here.) We need to come together. That’s why I love this line from Sister Burton’s address:
Brothers and sisters, we need each other!
So true! Yet so infrequently exemplified when considering the singles. That’s why I love Sister Burton’s remark. Accepting that we need each other helps us drop our own agendas and surrender to love. Only by surrendering to love do we build Zion, because Zion can’t be built unless we do it together.
Sister Burton continues:
As covenant-keeping women and men, we need to lift each other and help each other become the people the Lord would have us become. And we need to work together to lift the rising generation and help them reach their divine potential as heirs of eternal life. We could do as Elder Robert D. Hales and his wife, Mary, have done and follow the proverb "Thee lift me and I'll lift thee, and we'll ascend together."
Translation: We’re all on the same journey together. So let’s walk together! That means marrieds supporting singles and singles supporting marrieds. How else do we develop a true unity of the faith?
Oft speak kind words
1. When was the last time I sincerely praised my bishop or stake president, either alone or in the presence of his family? [If we refuse to support our leaders while complaining about our leaders not supporting us, we’re getting what we deserve.]
2. When was the last time I thanked, expressed love for, or earnestly pleaded in faith for the married members of my ward in prayer? [The support we offer can’t be feigned or rote as though checking an item off a to-do list. It must come from a genuine reality deep within us.]
3. When was the last time I stopped myself from saying something I knew could be hurtful? [No adaptation needed here.]
4. When was the last time I apologized and humbly asked for forgiveness—without adding the words "but if only you had" or "but if only you hadn't"? [Again, no adaptation needed.]
5. When was the last time I chose to be happy rather than demanding to be "right"? [Happiness really is a choice, so get your happy on!]
Bringing it all (and us) together
Sister Burton concludes her message with these wonderful words:
As I have prepared for this opportunity today, the Spirit has taught me, and I have committed to speak words of kindness more often to my cherished companion and about him, to lift the men in my family and express gratitude for the ways they fulfill their divine and complementary roles. And I have committed to follow the proverb "Thee lift me and I'll lift thee, and we'll ascend together."
Absolutely! I long for the day when we can come together and be one, when singles everywhere will be not just members of record but members for real. And I know I’m not alone in those feelings.
Yes, I’ll join with Sister Burton in seeking the help of the Spirit to know how we can better lift each other and ascend together. The only question is this: Will you?
Howdy! I'm Lance, host of Joy in the Journey Radio. I've been blogging about LDS singles life since 2012, and now I produce a weekly radio show to help LDS singles have more joy in their journey and bring all Latter-day Saints together. Let's engage a conversation that will increase the faith of LDS singles and bring singles and marrieds together in a true unity of the faith.
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