Covenant belonging

I wasn’t about to argue with the doctor while in pain.

It’s time once again to return to Conference, and yet a part of me wants to delve into another topic altogether.  I can see I planned to talk today about Elder Gerrit W. Gong’s address entitled “Covenant Belonging.”  But I can also see I didn’t plan on having a near miss with a heart attack.

I awoke that morning with an intense pain in the center of my chest.  It subsided shortly but later came back with a vengeance.  I grew concerned when a dose of Pepto didn’t resolve the issue.  Then when I vomited my lunch, I became very concerned.  One indicator you might be having a heart attack, albeit the most common one, is one thing.  But when you add in another, you now run the border of establishing a trend.  And I didn’t care to wait to see if that trend materialized.

I went to a clinic where a doctor ran some tests and came back with a diagnosis I didn’t believe then and still don’t today.  But I wasn’t about to argue with the doctor while in pain.  I didn’t want to postpone the relief that drove me to see the doctor in the first place.

The doctor prescribed some meds, I followed his directions, and the chest pain went away.  But then arrived stomach pains and more intense vomiting.  I couldn’t keep anything down.  After I vomited everything so I knew my stomach was empty, the stomach pains vanished only to be replaced with abdominal cramps.  I didn’t sleep well that night at all.

I’m in recovery now, but as I’ve always been the pensive and reflective sort, I certainly can’t resist reflecting on this experience.  As I do so, I can see clear connections between my experience and Elder Gong’s Conference address.  All of our lives have been greatly blessed by covenant belonging.

A culture in change

When I first heard his address in Conference, Elder Gong’s description of a gospel culture centered on Christ impressed me.  Indeed, true gospel culture is centered on the Savior and solidified by covenants we make to serve Him and each other.

Yet traditionally LDS subculture has centered on marital status as the marker of belonging.  And that center has caused countless challenges for many LDS singles.  Long time audience members know I once harped endlessly on our need to change the culture.  The problem is in how singles think, yes.  But the problem is also in how everyone thinks, and that thinking is manifested in culture.

Elder Gong cuts through all of the bunk to the real heart of a Zion culture — making and keeping sacred covenants to become more like Jesus Christ.

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When we come to God’s great commandments to love Him and those around us by covenant, we do so not as stranger or guest but as His child at home. The age-old paradox is still true. In losing our worldly self through covenant belonging, we find and become our best eternal self — free, alive, real — and define our most important relationships. Covenant belonging is to make and keep solemn promises to God and each other through sacred ordinances that invite the power of godliness to be manifest in our lives. When we covenant all we are, we can become more than we are. Covenant belonging gives us place, narrative, capacity to become. It produces faith unto life and salvation.

God never looked at His children through the lens of marital status.  I’m not entirely sure why we as a people ever did, but I rejoice in our culture changing for the better.

A bridge across the gap

I also rejoice that Elder Gong’s message to center ourselves in Christlike covenants is not the first apparently aimed at changing the culture to adopt a more ennobling marker of belonging.  Albeit not as directly as I have, various Church leaders have occasionally spoken about the divide between singles and marrieds in LDS culture and our need to bridge the gap.

Elder Gong followed suit in addressing that divide but doing so in a somewhat less indirect manner.

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To belong with God and to walk with each other on His covenant path is to be blessed by covenant belonging.

First, covenant belonging centers in Jesus Christ as “mediator of the new covenant.” All things can work together for our good when we are “sanctified in Christ … in the covenant of the Father.” Every good and promised blessing comes to those who remain faithful to the end. The “happy state of those that keep the commandments of God” is to be “blessed in all things, both temporal and spiritual,” and to “dwell with God in … never-ending happiness” . . . .

Finally, the blessings of covenant belonging come when we follow the Lord’s prophet and rejoice in temple-covenant living, including in marriage. Covenant marriage becomes supernal and eternal as we daily choose the happiness of our spouse and family before our own. As “me” becomes “we,” we grow together. We grow old together; we grow young together. As we bless each other across a lifetime of forgetting ourselves, we find our hopes and joys sanctified in time and eternity.

While situations differ, when we do all we can, the best we can, and sincerely ask and seek His help along the way, the Lord will guide us, in His time and manner, by the Holy Ghost. Marriage covenants are binding by mutual choice of those making them —a reminder of God’s and our respect for agency and the blessing of His help when we unitedly seek it.

I love that balance between including singles and promoting marriage and family.  These two elements were never meant to be mutually exclusive!  Those who understand the concept of covenant belonging see that truth plain as day.

A place to belong

You may be wondering now what all of this has to do with my near miss of a heart attack.  It’s very simple.  I belong as all LDS singles do to a community bound together by covenants to serve the Lord and serve one another.

The day after my near miss, my ministering brother and a member of the bishopric were in my home visiting with me and providing a priesthood blessing.  Now, I know that doesn’t happen everywhere.  I’ve been in some of those wards where it doesn’t happen.  But if you find yourself there, I can assure you it will pass and you will come to a better place if you stay faithful to your covenants and do your best to practice covenant belonging.

The Lord is mindful of all of us.  I know He’s been mindful of me.  Feeling that love has renewed my desire to be true to my covenants and to exemplify God’s definition of real belonging that we can find therein.  And it is by living covenant belonging that we can best feel that love.  And that will bring us more joy in our journey.

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