Many LDS singles may write this off as some same-old-ball-and-chain response that doesn’t really help them, but I won’t. President Nelson answered the question in a way that helps LDS singles move forward in their lives. We just need to dig a little deeper to see that answer, which lies in the covenant path. We walk that path when we heed the call of the Master, “Come, follow me.”
Choose to follow Him
President Nelson speaking of the covenant path shouldn’t surprise us. That idea has been prominent since he became the Prophet. The Brethren have used that phrase significantly more after President Nelson became the Prophet than they did before.
I believe it’s essential for LDS singles who desire the blessings of family. “Where is my family?” you ask. I answer, “Along the covenant path.” Listen to these words from a living Prophet.
Did you catch that? “Christ has offered His mighty arm to help all who choose to follow Him.” Christ will help you achieve your blessings, but only by staying on the covenant path will you attract the companion who’ll go with you to the House of the Lord to begin your eternal family.
Examine your assumptions
Much of the frustration people have stems from fault assumptions. Assumptions provide the foundation behind our actions. We typically don’t act contrary to what we assume is true. That’s just how we’re biologically hardwired.
President Nelson cited two false assumptions many in the world make regarding eternal families. He mentioned how love songs have popularized the false notion that love is all you need to be together forever. And he described how some have twisted the truth about the Resurrection to extend beyond just saving individuals from physical death.
Of course, quoting from D&C 132:7, which President Nelson did, sufficiently quells that erroneous assumption. But what other faulty assumptions do people have regarding eternal families? In particular, what faulty assumptions do LDS singles have regarding eternal families?
Think about those questions as you consider President Nelson’s words:
Here we see people assuming things will just work out. Many LDS singles make a similar assumption: Righteousness alone provides the blessings of an eternal family. I can’t tell you how often I’ve wished that were true. I’d have shed my single status a long time ago. But the world our Lord made works a little differently.
Stay on the path
The Lord has taught that “when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated” (D&C 130:21). If the blessing of temple marriage rested upon righteousness, then righteousness should always result in temple marriage. Because that’s obviously not true, it follows that righteousness alone is not the law upon which the blessing of temple marriage is predicated.
What then is? The fundamentals of dating teach that each major step in your journey to temple marriage is essentially an agreement — a mutual decision between you and someone else to take that next step. How do you secure an agreement? By being agreeable. Often that means offering something of value.
How can you make yourself more agreeable? Righteousness alone doesn’t cut it. And you won’t get the something more you need if you step off the covenant path. Doing that makes you less likely to receive the revelation you need to know what that something more is.
So stay on the covenant path. No other path leads to the temple and the blessings of an eternal family. By staying on the covenant path, you heed the call of the Master to come and follow Him. And by following Him, He can more easily bless you with the revelation you need and other tender mercies to support you in your righteous quest. And that will bring you more joy in your journey.
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