Episode 8 | Wed 21 Feb 2018 | Build support networks
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Success in singles activities is commonly defined in terms of numbers — It’s never good to base your success on how others use their agency — Success is about meeting the needs of individual singles — Activities are a means to that end — Attending activities with the dating forum perspective blinds us to the needs of the singles around us — Many singles stay away from activities because they don’t perceive their needs will be met — We all need to feel loved — Our family-centered culture alienates many singles — Joy in the Journey Radio exists so we can have the conversation and bring positive energy into the lives of LDS singles — The activity club exists mainly because we don’t know how to do dating — People want to have fun, but it shouldn’t be the main driver for attending — There’s nothing wrong with wanting an eternal companion so long as it’s not the principal reason you attend activities — We need to think differently if we are going to do dating right — Many things (like marriage) comes more easily when you don’t chase it directly
The ideal singles activity is not about what you do but about touching hearts and changing lives — The only number we need to worry about is the number one — Planning committees should plan to minister to people and not just fill a calendar — Every grouping we have in the church is about supporting each other — We’re asking all the wrong questions — Instead of asking what singles want to do, we should be asking what do singles need — Getting people to adopt new ways of thinking is hard — People say they want to change but then keep doing the same things as before — Go after less actives last — You must get leadership buy-in to implement this, especially from the stake presidency — Support networks change lives — Many singles without support networks think their leaders don’t care — In a support network, everyone helps everyone else — Love is what grows programs because people respond to love
The numbers come when you don’t focus on them or chase after them — It’s like health, which is more likely to come by chasing after what fosters it — Support networks foster growth — What matters is connection and relationships — The story of a widower who started coming to singles activities so he could make a contribution — It’s how we’re changed, not how many show up, that determines success — Activities are not ends in themselves but means to the end of building a support network — Getting people to change their habits is difficult, but it’s worthwhile — The story of how a change in procedure to meet needs touched lives — As we focus on meeting the needs of the people, the numbers will follow
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